Why aren’t we talking about the fact that the young people committing these school shootings and stabbings are boys? Because I really think the violence, and the sense of having no control, and the part where they reached for a weapon in order to gain control (and to make people listen to them) has way more to do with the fact that boys are raised to feel like they’re nothing if they don’t have everything. And if you don’t have what the patriarchy says you ought to have, then you should take it, and society says you’re allowed to take it. You’re supposed to take it, even with violence. He who kills the most bad guys gets the girl and all the money.
I mean, you can blame weapons and mental illness all you want, but if you grow up believing there is no way apart from violence, then why be so shocked and horrified when violence is what you get? If you’re taught that you have to be a powerful man, and you can’t figure out how, then you might stab someone to feel like one.